Doing Life with Your Adult Children: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out

Jim Burns, Ph.D

Mar 2019 · Sold by Zondervan

About this ebook

Are you struggling to connect with your child now that they've left the nest? Are you feeling the tension and heartache as your relationship dynamic begins to change? In Doing Life with Your Adult Children, bestselling author and parenting expert Jim Burns provides practical advice and hopeful encouragement for navigating this tough yet rewarding transition.

If you've raised a child, you know that parenting doesn't stop when they turn eighteen. In many ways, your relationship gets even more complicated--your heart and your head are as involved as ever, but you can feel things shifting, whether your child lives under your roof or rarely stays in contact.

Doing Life with Your Adult Children helps you navigate this rich and challenging season of parenting. Speaking from his own personal and professional experience, Burns offers practical answers to the most common questions he's received over the years, including:

• My child's choices are breaking my heart--where did I go wrong?
• Is it OK to give advice to my grown child?
• What's the difference between enabling and helping?
• What boundaries should I have if my child moves back home?
• What do I do when my child doesn't seem to be maturing into adulthood?
• How do I relate to my grown child's significant other?
• What does it mean to have healthy financial boundaries?
• How can I support my grown children when I don't support their values?

Including positive principles on bringing kids back to faith, ideas on how to leave a legacy as a grandparent, and encouragement for every changing season, Doing Life with Your Adult Children is a unique book on your changing role in a calling that never ends.

Ratings and reviews

A couple of chapters did not apply to our circumstances, but the information on dealing with enabling vs. Caring, and financial boundries were worth more to me than anything. I struggle with enabling too much and paying for things that I shouldn't have too with my adult children. This book is a great resource for navigating this road full of potholes. I will read it again in a few days, after I digest this information.

About the author

Jim Burns is the president of HomeWord. He speaks to thousands of people around the world each year. He has more than two million resources in print in twenty languages. He primarily writes and speaks on the values of HomeWord, which are Strong Marriages, Confident Parents, Empowered Kids, and Healthy Leaders. Some of his most popular books are Doing Life with Your Adult Children, The Purity Code, Creating an Intimate Marriage, Have Serious Fun, and Finding Joy in the Empty Nest. Jim and his wife, Cathy, live in Southern California and have three grown daughters, Christy, Rebecca, and Heidi; three sons-in-law, Steve, Andy, and Matt; and three grandchildren, James, Charlotte, and Huxley.