The Courage to Be Disliked: The Japanese Phenomenon That Shows You How to Change Your Life and Achieve Real Happiness

Ichiro Kishimi · Fumitake Koga

May 2018 · Sold by Simon and Schuster

About this ebook

An international bestseller and TikTok sensation with more than 10 million copies sold worldwide, The Courage to Be Disliked is a transformative and practical guide to personal happiness and self-fulfillment.

Now you can unlock your full potential and free yourself from the shackles of past traumas and societal expectations to find true personal happiness. Based on the theories of renowned psychologist Alfred Adler, this book guides you through the principles of self-forgiveness, self-care, and mind decluttering in a straightforward, easy-to-digest style that’s accessible to all.

The Courage to Be Disliked unfolds as a dialogue between a philosopher and a young man, who, over the course of five enriching conversations, realizes that each of us is in control of our life’s direction, independent of past burdens and expectations of others.

Wise, empowering, and profoundly liberating, this book is a life-changing experience that shows you a path to lasting happiness and how to finally be the person you truly want to be. Millions are already benefiting from its teachings—and you can be next.

Ratings and reviews

I purchased this on Amazon. I am trying to make this visible here to help others understand how this book deceives the reader. The book is set up as a Aristotelian (not Socratic) inquiry between "Philosopher" and "Youth" using vague symbols to reinforce the concepts. The author's premise vis-a-vis 'Adlerian theory' is: 1. Trauma is just ruminating on self-suffering. 2. Since Trauma is different person-to-person, it is not uniform; therefore, it is curable. 3. Since Trauma occurs between people, changing one's approach to interpersonal relations is necessary for survival. 4. Relationships should be 'horizontal' (pure egalitarian) not 'vertical' (competitive) ... And here's the deception: 5. The only way to do this is to live in "service toward others", which creates value 6. Creating value makes one feel self-worth. Those six steps are identical to the principles of neo-Marxist-Leninism. This is just pro-Viet propaganda disguised as self-help.

“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.” — John Spence

it's a good book so far... just four states though, because it's kinda expensive which means I wasn't able to finish it all haha

About the author

Ichiro Kishimi was born in Kyoto, where he currently resides. He writes and lectures on Adlerian psychology and provides counseling for youths in psychiatric clinics as a certified counselor and consultant for the Japanese Society of Adlerian Psychology. He is the translator, into Japanese, of selected writings by Alfred Adler—The Science of Living and Problems of Neurosis—and he is the author of Introduction to Adlerian Psychology, in addition to numerous other books.

Fumitake Koga is an award-winning professional writer and author. He has released numerous bestselling works of business-related and general non-fiction. He encountered Adlerian psychology in his late twenties and was deeply affected by its conventional wisdom–defying ideas. Thereafter, Koga made numerous visits to Ichiro Kishimi in Kyoto, gleaned from him the essence of Adlerian psychology, and took down the notes for the classical “dialogue format” method of Greek philosophy that is used in this book.