The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Expanded Third Edition: How to recognize it and how to respond

Patricia Evans

Dec 2009 · Sold by Simon and Schuster

About this ebook

In this fully expanded and updated third edition of the bestselling classic, you learn why verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can deal with it. You'll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it happens, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.

In two all-new chapters, Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse - and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. She also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior - from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.

Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people just like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse - and the abuser.

This timely new edition of The Verbally Abusive Relationship puts you on the road to recognizing and responding to verbal abuse, one crucial step at a time!

Ratings and reviews

I can't believe a book originally published in 1990 had so many ideas in it that were new to me. (Parts of it have come into popular culture, but only parts...) The complete thesis is elegant, self-evident, and is giving me so many new thoughts about how to deal with interactions that keep bothering me and bothering me, even when I try to keep talking myself out of being bothered. I was gobsmacked. Finished it in two days, highly recommended.

This book was recommended by my therapist, and while reading it was hard at times, it is exactly what I needed to learn about. Even if you aren't thinking you're a victim of verbal abuse, you could learn a lot about helping others through reading this book.

I have read this book I had friends love ones try to tell me to get out of this relationship that I was in counsellors telling me but this book nailed every emotion that I felt because I thought I was doing something wrong .I thought verbal abuse was swearing but it's not only just that it's the nip you lading the control this book has saved me and waking me up and help me understand the hurt and the confusion but I was going through.I want to say thank you to the author and a divine spirit that was looking out for me . I said to friend of mine I want to know what verbal abuse is and two days later she found this book amongst other books were to be thrown out it was laid into my hand the right time has come to wake me up and realized what I was in was not healthy relationship . Thank you .

About the author

Patricia Evans is the bestselling author of four books, including The Verbally Abusive Relationship, Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out, Controlling People, and The Verbally Abusive Man: Can He Change? A highly acclaimed interpersonal communications specialist, public speaker, and consultant, Evans has appeared on Oprah, CNN, CBS News, Fox News, She Knows, and on numerous national radio programs. Her work has been featured in Shape, Newsweek, and O, The Oprah Magazine. Evans lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and can be reached via her website at VerbalAbuse.com.