The Insecure in Love Workbook: Step-by-Step Guidance to Help You Overcome Anxious Attachment and Feel More Secure with Yourself and Your Partner

Leslie Becker-Phelps

Apr 2024 · New Harbinger Publications

About this ebook

A step-by-step workbook to help you move past anxious attachment and feel more confident in your relationships!

Has your romantic partner called you clingy, insecure, desperate, or jealous? If they go out with their friends, do you worry that they might be flirting or hooking up with someone else? Do you often worry that they’re going to leave you? If you find yourself constantly on the alert or anxious when it comes to your significant other, you may suffer from anxious attachment—a fear of abandonment that is often rooted in early childhood experiences. So, how can you move past this anxiety before it hurts—or even destroys—your relationship?

Based on the self-help hit by Leslie Becker-Phelps, The Insecure in Love Workbook offers engaging activities, tips, and exercises to help you overcome attachment anxiety by developing compassionate self-awareness. You’ll learn to recognize physical sensations, negative thoughts, distressing emotions, and unhealthy behavior patterns that underlie your insecurity; and respond to them in a more nurturing way—rather than beating yourself up.

You’ll also discover how insecurity can overwhelm or paralyze you, negatively affecting the relationship between you and your partner. Finally, you’ll develop the skills needed to stop repeating old patterns of self-doubt, neediness, and possessiveness.

If you suffer from anxious attachment, you probably know that you need to change, and yet you have remained stuck. But by developing compassionate self-awareness, you can finally free yourself from this cycle of self-sabotage, so you can nurture greater self-acceptance and cultivate secure, healthy, and lasting relationships.

About the author

Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, is an internationally published author, speaker, and psychologist. She is a trusted expert on relationship issues that people have with themselves, as well as with others. She is author of Insecure in Love and Bouncing Back from Rejection. She writes the Making Change blog for www.psychologytoday.com. In addition, she has created a library of short videos on her YouTube channel to offer people the opportunity to learn how to feel better about themselves and their lives.
 
Becker-Phelps has a private practice in Basking Ridge, NJ; and is on the medical staff of Robert Wood Johnson University Hospital Somerset, where she previously served as clinical director of women’s psychological services, and chief of psychology in the department of psychiatry. She lives with her husband and two sons in Basking Ridge. Find out more about her at www.drbecker-phelps.com.