Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

Henry Cloud · John Townsend

Oct 2017 · Sold by Zondervan

About this ebook

Join the millions who have learned how to take control of their lives by setting healthy boundaries with their spouses, children, friends, parents, co-workers, and even themselves—in order to live life to the fullest.

• Do you feel like your life has spiraled out of control?
• Have you focused so much on being loving and unselfish that you've forgotten your own limits?
• Do you find yourself taking responsibility for other people's feelings and problems?

In Boundaries, Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend share the lessons they've learned in their years of practicing psychology and studying the patterns and practices that support clear biblical boundaries. You'll learn the ins and outs of setting the boundaries that will transform your daily life.

This updated and expanded edition of Boundaries, answers the most common questions on the science behind establishing boundaries:

• Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
• What are legitimate boundaries?
• How do I effectively manage my digital life so that it doesn't control me?
• What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
• How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
• Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?

Discover the countless ways that Boundaries can change your life for the better today!

Ratings and reviews

I'm reading about setting limits in reference to being more assertive in my life mainly because I've noticed that I want beautiful things in my life like a husband a good feeling sobriety and to offer people around me a good experience in life but I'm also overworking myself in not getting rest to do those things but I'm hopeful I can be more assertive like go to the gym because I want a hot body I want to look like a ten for modeling I want things going in my life I want to thrive.

As a therapist this is excellent, as a person, this is excellent. As a follower of Jesus this is excellent. First pass of reading is on my own life as a believer. I think of my own need and hesitations in setting boundaries. A great reflection on the purpose and the value of this hard step personally and in relationships. As a counselor myself, where I seek to incorporate faith into practice, this book would benefit anybody wearing human skin! I love the author's challenge to apply empathy and compassion toward others while setting boundaries. This keeps us engaged with the heart of Love and sensitivity toward how someone else is affected by boundaries, at the same time, proceeding to set limits as the best and healthy thing to do. Without that love, setting boundaries could be a cruel exercise in simply hurting others to the point of retaliation and revenge. Incorporating love in boundary setting keeps connection! Outcome is genuine relationship and a healthy sense of self! Yes!

Transformational book - I use to think most requests of me were my responsibility... until I learned that I had unhealthy personal boundaries for myself. I read it in 2018 and now in 2020 I have applied healthy boundaries to every area of my life (career, family, marriage, my relationship to self, wellbeing, finances, and friendships). I am so thankful for this knowledge and awareness. the Implementation was new, hard, different, but I knew this was a sign that I need a new boundary in place to ensure my wellbeing. THANK YOU to these authors

About the author

Dr. Henry Cloud is a clinical psychologist, pastor to pastors, and New York Times bestselling author. His 45 books, including the iconic Boundaries, have sold over 20 million copies worldwide. Throughout his storied career as a clinician, he started treatment centers, created breakthrough new models rooted in research, and has been a leading voice on issues of mental health and leadership on a global scale. Dr. Cloud lives in Los Angeles with his wife, Tori, and their two daughters, Olivia and Lucy.

Dr. John Townsend is a nationally known leadership consultant, psychologist, and author, selling over 10 million books, including the New York Times bestselling Boundaries series. John founded the Townsend Institute for Leadership and Counseling and the Townsend Leadership Program. Dr. Townsend travels extensively for corporate consulting, speaking events, and to help develop leaders, their teams, and their families. John and his family live in Southern California and Texas. Visit DrTownsend.com.