Torn Asunder

Dave Carder

May 2007 · Moody Publishers

About this ebook

A resource on marital infedlity for all involved, even onlookers

Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples.

Along the way Carder also answers questions like:

• Why did this happen?
• We didn’t actually sleep together, so is it still an affair?
• Can I trust my spouse again?
• Should I reveal a secret affair?
• What if my spouse doesn’t want me back?
• What do we tell the kids?

This refreshed and updated edition is an excellent resource for pastors, leaders, and lay people.

Pair this with the Torn Asunder Workbook to for extra guidance in applying the book's advice to your marriage. 

Ratings and reviews

This book is very real and earnest about the pain and grief that follow an affair. A must for BOTH people to understand what has really happened in their marriage and how to endure through the painful healing process

Although a Christian book, it is not written about blindly praying and hoping for the best. It offers good insight and advice for those who are dealing with the aftermath of infidelity.

But all I can get is the sample...help me!

About the author

DAVE CARDER serves as Pastor of Counseling Ministries at First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, CA. His specialty is Adultery Recovery and Prevention for which he has appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Network, Discovery Health, and The Learning Channel, has done training for the US Army and Navy, plus multiple tapings for The Tony Robbins Passion Project, Marriage Uncensored, 100 Huntley Street, Salvation Army Leadership Training, and the American Association of Christian Counselors. His interviews and articles have appeared in Ladies Home Journal, USA Today, The Counseling Connection, and various other magazines and journals. He is the author or co-author of Torn Asunder: Recovering from an Extramarital Affair, Close Calls: What Adulterers Want You to Know About Protecting Your Marriage, and Unlocking Your Family Patterns: Finding Freedom from a Hurtful Past. He holds the Michigan Limited License for Psychology and the California Marital and Family Therapy license, and has graduate degrees in Biblical Literature and Counseling Psychology. Dave and his wife, Ronnie, have been married 49 years, have four adult children, and eight grandchildren.