Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love

Amir Levine · Rachel Heller

Nov 2019 · Penguin Random House Audio · Narrated by Robert Petkoff

About this audiobook

"A groundbreaking book that redefines what it means to be in a relationship."
--John Gray, PhD., bestselling author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

   • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back
   • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
   • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides listeners in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

*Includes a PDF of the attachment style questionnaire

Ratings and reviews

based on the quiz and descriptions. I think I'm disorganized attachment I wish there was more on this style of attachment. I was left feeling like I have a bit better understanding but still some confusion over protesting vs saying what your needs are and being overly accommodating for fear of rejection vs securely making compromises to meet your partners needs. Or securely knowing your own needs and walking away vs protest behavior. If I was only anxious or only avoidant I think I'd understand but because my behaviors are all mixed and because when I analyze all my relationships (not just platonic) I have some secure attachments, some anxious and some avoidant it's hard to know what I'm doing is secure or anxious or avoidant.

they deducted my money, but i still didnt get the audiobook! :(

summed up as 1 secure way to do a relationship and the rest of the people are emotionally immature.

About the author

AMIR LEVINE, M.D., is an associate professor of psychiatry and the director of the SecureLab at Columbia University. He is an adult, child, and adolescent psychiatrist and a neuroscientist. In his private practice, he supervises and trains therapists in novel attachment neuroscience–based treatments aimed at helping people become more secure. He sees individuals, couples, and families for consultation and treatment.
 
RACHEL S. F. HELLER, M.A., is a supervising psychologist who works both in the public sector and in private practice. She holds a master’s degree from Columbia University. In her work, she integrates attachment-based principles with cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and experiential-based approaches to help both children and adults.