I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

Terrence Real

Dec 2011 · Tantor Media Inc · Narrated by Adam Verner

About this audiobook

Each year, millions of men and women fall prey to depression. While the disorder has been called "psychiatry's most treatable condition," less than one in five get help. In recent years, the silence surrounding depression in women has begun to lift, but only now, with this powerful groundbreaking work, does psychotherapist Terrence Real expose a virtual epidemic of the disorder in men.Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced Real that there are two forms of depression: "overt" and "covert." Feeling the stigma of depression's "unmanliness," many men hide their condition not only from family and friends but even from themselves. Attempts to escape depression fuel many of the problems we think of as typically male-difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage. By directing their pain outward, depressed men hurt the people they love, and, most tragically, pass their condition on to their children.A master storyteller, Real mixes penetrating analysis with poignant, compelling tales of the men and women whom he treats. He writes with passion and searing clarity about his own experiences with depression, as the son of a depressed, violent father, and the father of two young sons.Peggy Papp of the Ackerman Family Institute calls this book "a pathway out of the darkness." Real teaches us how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. I Don't Want to Talk About It offers great wisdom, hope, and practical guidance to men and their families. This is one of the most important and straightforward books ever written about men.

Ratings and reviews

Great book that nicely combines the authors work as a therapist with his own experiences from childhood to adulthood. Also a good primer to pursue one's own journey.

I've recommended this book to every man I know. Thanks, Terry, for this gem of a book. The narrator (Adam Verner) did an amazing job as well.

This should be a mandatory reading for all. I'm listening again ,taking notes in the hard copy, sharing with others. LIFE CHANGING!

About the author

Terrence Real is a psychotherapist in private practice and the bestselling author of How Can I Get Through to You?

Adam Verner has narrated over one hundred books, including the AudioFile Earphones Award winner Pavilion of Women by Pearl S. Buck. Adam works as a full-time voice actor and on stage in Chicago.