There Is No Good Card for This: What To Say and Do When Life Is Scary, Awful, and Unfair to People You Love

Kelsey Crowe · Emily McDowell

Jan 2017 · HarperAudio · Narrated by Xe Sands

About this audiobook

The creator of the viral hit ""Empathy Cards"" teams up with a compassion expert to produce a guide to help you increase your emotional intelligence and learn how to offer comfort and support when someone you know is in pain.

When someone you know is hurting, you want to let her know that you care. But many people don’t know what words to use—or are afraid of saying or doing the wrong thing. This thoughtful, instructive guide, from empathy expert Dr. Kelsey Crowe and greeting card maverick Emily McDowell, blends well-researched, actionable advice with the no-nonsense humor of McDowell's immensely popular Empathy Cards, to help you feel confident in connecting with anyone experiencing grief, loss, illness, or any other difficult situation.

Written in a how-to, relatable, we’ve-all-been-that-deer-in-the-headlights kind of way, There Is No Good Card for This isn’t a spiritual treatise on how to make you a better person or a scientific argument about why compassion matters. It is a guide to effective compassion that takes you, step by step by step, past the paralysis of thinking about someone in a difficult time to actually doing something (or nothing) with good judgment instead of fear.

There Is No Good Card for This features workbook exercises, sample dialogs, and real-life examples from Dr. Crowe’s research, including her popular ""Empathy Bootcamps"" that give people tools for building relationships when it really counts. Whether it’s a coworker whose mother has died, a neighbor whose husband has been in a car accident, or a friend who is seriously ill, There Is No Good Card for This teaches you how to be the best friend you can be to someone in need.

Ratings and reviews

This book is incredible. If you've ever been faced with someone who has lost a loved one, gone through a job loss, faced cancer, etc. and felt completely clueless how to respond this book will be your best guide for what to do and what not to do (ignoring them and their loss doesn't help them!) I wish I would have read it sooner! The illustrations inside are adorable and bring the points to life. Definitely recommend to everyone!

Best friend lost both of her precious parents in less than7 weeks... Utterly DEVASTATING PAIN ...and to on the sidelines and stand watching helplessly is souch a foreign feeling that not one of us REALLY KNOW what to do... Thank you for this!

I have only previewed the free sample; however, I look forward to obtaining the entire bit and reviewing it. It sounds great so far!

About the author

Kelsey Crowe, Ph.D., founded Help Each Other Out and is a breast cancer survivor. She earned her doctorate in social welfare at the University of California, Berkeley, and teaches social work at California State University. Kelsey is originally from Brooklyn and lives in San Francisco with her husband and daughter. You can find her online at www.helpeachotherout.org.

Emily McDowell is not a doctor. She is a writer, illustrator, speaker, and the CEO of Emily McDowell Studio, making greeting cards for the relationships we really have and products that speak to the people we really are. In 2015, she created Empathy™ Cards, for people experiencing major illness, grief, and loss. She and her work have been featured in the New York Times and on Good Morning America, NBC Nightly News, and NPR’s All Things Considered, among many others, and in 2015, she was named by Slate as one of “Ten Designers Who Are Changing the World.” Emily lives and works in Los Angeles, and you can find her online at www.emilymcdowell.com.