You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

Kate Murphy

Jan 2020 · Macmillan Audio · Narrated by Kate Murphy

About this audiobook

"Narrating her own work, Murphy is certainly worthy of the listener's attention. She offers a sincere, passionate voice that is capable of delivering some hard truths about the current state of things while also showing the way toward a truly connected society." — AudioFile Magazine

**This program is read by the author**

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?

At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation.
On social media, we shape our personal narratives.
At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.
We’re not listening.
And no one is listening to us.

Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.

In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.

"An essential book for our times." - Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

Ratings and reviews

First fe chapters of the book felt like a dry subject may be because I was not listening to the Audio book. as the chapters progressed and author described about the aspects of listening i got interested in the book. while I have finished it, i think I will mark it to be re read again as i do with some of my book.

por it was a great experience because they opened my perception to how listening can really impact every human being no matter what your status is or your background

Really enjoyed this book! We could all improve our listening skills.

About the author

Kate Murphy is a Houston, TX–based journalist who has written for The New York Times, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly.