Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

Jessica Fern

Oct 2020 · Thornapple Press · Narrated by Jessica Fern, Eve Rickert, and Nora Samaran

About this audiobook

Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you're striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner? Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships. Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.

Ratings and reviews

Overly long Buzzfeed article, full of general anecdotes and random statistics that aren't really usable for someone already familiar with non-monogamy/attachment styles. Lots of sentences that sound deep, but after a few chapters I feel like I haven't learned anything. Reader sounds like a somewhat condescending and insincere yoga teacher.

the most comprehensive book on attachment styles and polyamory I've heard of. I bought the physical book also so I could share with friends

Absolutely fantastic overviews of attachment theory, boundaries, the nested theory of attachment, as well as of consensual nonmanogamy. The introduction to applying these concepts to relationships and nonmanogamy feels like just the support I needed.

About the author

Jessica Fern is a psychotherapist, public speaker and trauma and relationship expert. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Eve Rickert is the co-author of More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory (Thorntree Press, 2014).